I wasn't always a Christian.
I mean that to say that while I was raised in church (first Baptist, then non-denominational, a long stretch of non-attendance, and now Lutheran), the early part of my life was a lot of ritual performed out of habit, always doing what had always been done. How I actually lived, however, was an endless loop of experiences and regret when those experiences didn't turn out the way I thought they would. Or to be honest, I couldn't get away with what I saw my friends getting away with, at least not completely unscathed. We all called ourselves Christians; we had all been raised in church, and knew, at least peripherally, that there were certain expectations for our lives and behavior, we just chose not to meet them.
Looking back from a vantage point of 20-plus years, I now realize that we were part of a very common group of Christians. We called ourselves Christian more out of habit than anything else, but our personal practice of it was incidental at best, and completely non-existent at worst. This is not a condemnation. There is a time in every young person who was raised in a religious household's life, when they begin to question what they were taught, and if that is what they still believe. It is a natural part of growth, and an important transition from merely practicing your parents faith, to forming your own point of view, and spiritual life.
Or not. I suppose this is why I have no quarrel with questioners, atheists, or anyone who has a different spiritual practice than I do. Different points of view are a healthy part of a functioning society. Especially considering the behavior of some of us Christians. I will be the first to admit that sometimes it's our own behavior that gives people pause.
The video linked above, for the song titled "It's a Sin" by English band The Pet Shop Boys, shows songwriter Neil Tennant's take on his Catholic upbringing in England. Based on personal accounts of those who no longer attend services, the Catholic Church seemed to depend on guilt over perceived sins as a means of gaining obedience to entrenched church doctrine. The entrenched church doctrine being at least part of the problem. I give the current Pope, Francis, a lot of credit for trying to change the direction of the Catholic church to at least be somewhat more inclusive. While he is being applauded for practicing the philosophy "Change Begins at the Top", this still might not stop the slow trajectory of individuals and families away from weekly attendance and participation. There is a very different set of questions for that.
Spirituality is as old as the Earth itself, organized religion has existed for thousands of years, and while I doubt either of these things is going to change anytime soon, our approach is going to have to. Not just in terms of how we get our message out to the world, but how we conduct ourselves while teaching it. We will never be able to answer those honest questions, if the askers' are so turned off by the messenger that they don't bother to ask.
Methinks that's where our true challenge is coming from.